Are you struggling to figure out what's next for your life?
Feeling dissatisfied, but uncertain what to do?
Here is an easy activity that will help you start thinking about what needs to change in your life.
Many years ago I started asking some of my clients to make a record of the things they did every day.
Here's the kind of thing they wrote:-
- Got up at 7.00am
- Had breakfast - bread and peanut butter
- Bought coffee in Starbucks
- Got on 8.15am train
- Looked at email
- 8.45am Arrived at work
- More coffee
- Opened up laptop. 15 mins updating weekly report
- 9.15 Meeting with my colleagues
Are there some people you get on with really well, it's easy to talk to them, you both seem to speak the same language and you create rapport quickly?
And then, are there others who are perfectly lovely, but no matter what you say, you just feel you don't connect with them so easily and you are left wondering why.
In today's blog I am going to share with you three communication patterns that you can tune in to, so that you can:
So think of a day at work.
You see what and who is in your immediate environment.
You hear noises. Voices. Telephone calls. Movement.
You feel certain ways depending on what's going on.
Perhaps there are distinct smells.
Tastes from your lunch.
Have you ever heard yourself say:
"Yes, I hear you , But..."
And you know the minute you say the word 'but', that means the person you are talking to knows you are dismissing what they have just said -even without you saying another word.
Well today, I want to introduce you to a tiny word that you can substitute for the word 'but', so that you can:-
- Improve your communication skills
- Retain rapport, and not break it, while still saying what you need to say
- And respect & value everyone you talk to, building positive relationships in the long term
Hello, I'm Gwenn Clayton and I've been fascinated by leadership & growth since the early 1990's. And of course since then, I have heard the word 'but' used a gazillion of times. I have also seen many people turn around , tail between their legs, feeling not listened to and defeated as a result of that one word.
So what can you say instead?
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